The Tools I Use to Save My Marriage

Episode Title: The Tools I Use to Save My Marriage

Podcast: Midlife Marriage Mastery with Lisa Kneller

Have you ever wondered what it really takes to keep a marriage thriving—especially after years of life together, through changes, challenges, and the rollercoaster of midlife? In this heartfelt and practical episode, Lisa Kneller shares the exact tools she uses to nurture and strengthen her own 39-year marriage. From daily emotional regulation to yearly growth practices, Lisa opens her personal marriage playbook and reveals how she stays connected, grounded, and in love—even when things get tough.

These aren’t theories—they’re living, breathing habits that cultivate emotional awareness, mutual respect, and lasting connection.

What You’ll Learn

• Daily Tools for Emotional Regulation: Discover simple yet powerful practices like deep breathing, mindfulness, yoga, and letter writing to stay calm and connected.

• Weekly Tools for Conscious Thinking: Learn how to apply the CTFAR Model (Circumstance–Thought–Feeling–Action–Result) to manage your mind and prevent unnecessary conflict.

• Monthly Tools for Reflection: Explore the power of The Work by Byron Katie and The Three Principles for releasing judgment and returning to peace.

• Yearly Tools for Growth: See how books, podcasts, and coaching fuel ongoing marriage inspiration and keep you growing together.

• The Secret Ingredient—Staying Close: Lisa shares how intentional conversations, affection, intimacy, and gratitude keep love alive year after year.

Key Takeaways

• Marriage doesn’t thrive on autopilot—it requires conscious tending.

• Emotional regulation is a personal responsibility that creates harmony.

• Thought awareness through models like CTFAR helps transform frustration into compassion.

• Inquiry and self-reflection are the heart of growth and connection.

• Staying close—through communication, affection, and gratitude—is the ultimate “tool” for a thriving marriage.

Resources Mentioned

• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

• Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

• The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

• The Life Coach School Podcast by Brooke Castillo

• 10% Happier

• Marriage Therapy Radio

• Caffeine for the Soul with Michael Neill

Connect and Grow

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Listen now and learn how to cultivate lasting love—one conscious choice at a time.
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