Living Your Marriage On Purpose

Midlife Marriage Mastery — Episode: Living Your Marriage On Purpose

Why Intention Matters More Than Ever in Your Midlife Marriage

Episode Summary

When you got married—when you said your vows, made your promises, and looked into your partner’s eyes with tears of love and hope—you probably didn’t imagine struggling 20 years down the road. Yet nearly half of all marriages face significant challenges, and many couples drift apart long before they ever consider divorcing.

In today’s episode, Lisa explores why intention is the heartbeat of a thriving midlife marriage and how choosing love consciously—not by accident—can deepen connection, reduce conflict, and strengthen your bond in the second half of life.

Lisa shares her own marriage story, what shaped her early expectations around commitment, and how one simple decision—“divorce is not an option for us”—created the mindset that carried her and her husband through the storms of long-term love.

This episode is for you if you want to reconnect, lead with love, and stop living your marriage on autopilot.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

🌿 Why intention is the foundation of long-term love

How the mindset you bring into marriage shapes how you navigate conflict, connection, and change.

❤️ Lisa’s personal story of beating the odds

Growing up in a family marked by multiple divorces, Lisa shares why getting married felt risky—and how intention became the stabilizing force in her 39-year marriage.

🌱 Marriage by design vs. marriage by default

How routine, stress, and emotional autopilot slowly erode connection—and how awareness brings you back to love.

🧠 Intentional love in everyday life

Practical questions to ask yourself about the energy you bring into your marriage and how to shift toward presence, curiosity, and compassion.

🌸 The marriage-as-garden metaphor

Why kindness, gratitude, and attention act like water—and how neglect allows resentment and distance to grow.

✔️ Six simple practices for living intentionally in your relationship

Including:

  • Starting your day with presence

  • Communicating from the heart

  • Creating shared meaning

  • Weekly reflection rituals

  • Ongoing learning as a couple

  • Keeping a finger on the pulse of your relationship

🔄 The ripple effect of intentional love

How your marriage becomes a model for your children, community, and future generations.

Episode Highlights

  • “Are you living your marriage by design or by default?”

  • “Intention isn’t perfection—it’s awareness.”

  • “What you focus on expands.”

  • “Your marriage can be extraordinary—not by accident, but by being On Purpose.”

Reflection Questions

Use these for journaling or a conversation with your spouse:

  1. Am I showing up in my marriage the way I want to?

  2. What is one small intentional act I can take today?

  3. How do I respond when stress enters the relationship?

  4. What does a thriving midlife marriage look like for me? For us?

  5. Where do I need to “water the garden” more intentionally?

Try This This Week

Choose one of these simple intention practices:

  • Offer one sincere appreciation each morning.

  • Pause before responding in conflict—ask, “Do I want connection or to be right?”

  • Do a 10-minute weekly check-in using the questions above.

  • Set a shared relationship intention for this season of life.

Small shifts, practiced daily, create profound change.

Resources Mentioned

✔ The Midlife Marriage Check-In (Free Resource)

A simple diagnostic tool to help you understand the emotional, mental, and relational pulse of your marriage.
👉 https://www.lisaknellercoaching.com/marriage-empowerment 

✔ Marriage Empowerment Series

A powerful five-part email series that helps midlife women reconnect, rebuild, and revive their marriage from the inside out.
👉 https://www.lisaknellercoaching.com/marriage-empowerment 

✔ Book a Free Discovery Call

If you want personal support in bringing more intention, clarity, and connection into your marriage, book a complimentary call with Lisa:
👉 https://calendly.com/lisaknellercoaching/discovery-call 

If this episode inspired you to bring more intentional love into your marriage, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it with a friend, leave a review, or send Lisa a message on Instagram @lisaknellercoaching.

Your marriage can be extraordinary.
Not by accident—
but by being On Purpose.

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